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Long Term Happiness Through a Shift in Our Mindset

You might be surrounded by abundance of everything that you could possibly ask for, but may not be that happy. On the other hand, there are people who have very little and yet they are happy. Everyone has different ways of defining what happiness means to them and in their opinion, to their near and dear ones.

Happiness isn’t necessarily materialistic, it is a mindset. Some people may feel like money is what will make them happy. But, what is the purpose of having a lot of money? The reason why people feel like money is happiness may be because having money means you have the ability to purchase more resources, and having more resources may make people feel a sense of security. In this context, money isn’t equivalent to happiness. Money may be a path to feel satisfaction, and that feeling is what brings the person happiness.

It seems that happy people have light in their eyes, are joyful and most importantly eager and curious to share what they have in material and mind. We as humans may be insatiable and always are on a pleasure seeking drive like a misguided missile. Hence the constant search of happiness fails due to lack of adequate positive simulation and incentive to be happy. A way in which we can feel happiness is rewarding ourselves for our efforts, no matter how small. This is something that we subconsciously may not do for ourselves.

An annoyed smile on the face is not happiness, it’s the practice of contentment and inner peace that will go a long way. Without waiting for appreciation, happiness is being self appreciative and grounded that if you have done anything well, you don’t need to chase praises, what you deserve will find its way towards you. Integrating life defining habits to feel happy consistently are much more important than looking for regular spikes of excitement and euphoria.

For imperishable happiness, it's important to define the nature of acquaintances with the connections you prioritise. These networks can be with people, interest areas, and hobbies with one common denominator: they must help promote optimism in you. Some relationships in life are not the most healthy and can bring one down. However if they need help embracing them, else it's good to maintain a graceful distance if it's bringing down your own happiness.

Feeling happy may force you to take tough decisions, like cutting off a toxic friend that always puts you down or making the first bold move towards being with someone that lifts your spirits.

The childhood mindset: happiness is not a club where rights of entry are restricted and privileged. We are not born with a pessimistic view of the life around us, it seems we are just mentally adjusted to see the wrong side while growing up. It is psychologically proven that negative things tend to stick to us more than the positive, because negative emotions like sadness and anger tend to trigger increased activity in the part of the brain that links to memories.

The fact is that children are generally a happy lot and the only difference that comes along is the mindset and mental readjustment during growing up. No child ever is born with a pessimistic view of the world. The question is: can a childhood mindset be maintained for most part of life, when it concerns happiness?

We have to stay happy for ourselves and nobody else. Being content, cheerful and jovial is a shift of mindset from short term pleasure to long term and sustainable seventh heaven feeling. Ultimately making the right connections and viewing life through a personal lens comes only from within.

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