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Deeper Relationships Impacting the Level of Performance

Deeper relationships are a way for collaboration, productivity and living a fulfilling life. We may focus a lot on head and heart however much of our performance in personal and physical space depends on harvesting relationships in the right way. Social cohesion, as it is called, means genuine, caring relationships shared between us and the world that we live in. The strength of the connection between social cohesion and our performance in personal and professional tasks is confirmed by research as well as by real life experiences.



Taking an example of two friends in school, imagine a kind of friendship that only lasts while they are at school and don’t even interact when they’re not at school together. After school hours, if they are not socially connected or they don’t ever meet over a coffee or to discuss a new project, will their friendship last? such friendships do exist, and it doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing. On one hand, you can approach this situation from the perspective that the only reason they engage in social interaction with each other is because they are in school, see each other everyday hence have to. However, a different perspective to this can be that school is the first place they met, and maybe they just don’t know each other well enough to be close and talk outside school. That’s perfectly okay, such relationships just need time to grow and once they do, they can be one of the strongest bonds because they took their time to know each other and didn’t rush into it.


The differences in strengths, personality and style of two people however being able to relate to each other in some sense can become self-satisfying. We as humans are inherently social. In-fact, lack of community can even lead to illnesses. We don’t usually feel good about being isolated from people we can somehow relate to or care about. If we can have stronger and lasting relationships, the energy is steered to do more positive acts, focus on well being and shared objectives. Friendship and productive relations are like defense mechanisms that offer advance warnings from the things expected to go wrong and encourage steps to become sprints when doing something positive. Isolation to the brain releases disrupting hormones that can slow the pace of free flowing ideas and also make one feel physiologically insecure and vulnerable.


The real question is, how do we build deeper relationships? The beginning is with full disclosure; if you would like to develop a deeper bond there must be emotional transparency and a genuine caring attitude should reflect around you. Relationships only develop if there are no masks on who you really are.


The second important aspect is creating unplanned and unstructured experiences: informal calls, unplanned opportunities to meet, extend a hand when the other doesn’t expect at all and maintain confidentiality demanded by the relationship. The mind should practice and train to be vigilant in developing and harnessing structured relationships. Within relationships, one should feel free to expose their inner selves and weaknesses for developing interpersonal closeness. Deeper relationships can help overcome your greatest challenges and fears while also enhancing experiences of things in life you cherish the most.


Meet people where they are rather than hoping the others will keep walking an extra mile to meet where you are emotionally. Design your life to be relationship oriented with the power to reshape purposes, develop common interests and achieve relationship breakthroughs.


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